Why Are We So Unwilling to Share Information About JobHunting Experiences.

Does It Hurt To Share Tips & Tricks About Personal Jobhunting Experiences? Apparently, It Does.

Whether you are employed or looking for work, I’m sure one of the things you have done, is ask friends or family members who are employed, about how they made it into the employment world.

I was always baffled by the lack of enthusiasm, reluctance or blatant rejection I received from individuals who were employed, when I asked for advice or testimonials about how they secured their jobs.

The number of individuals who simply ignored messages, emails or calls about related questions I had, always surprised me. ‘Look it up,’ in an irritated voice, or ‘consult a recruitment consultant,’ made up the bulk of the replies I was lucky enough to get.

These Experiences Led Me To Ask Myself, Why Are We So Stingy With Information About How To Secure A Job, Especially An Overseas One?

  • Will sharing information about how we are working for an international company or how we managed to acquire a work permit, take anything away from what we already have?
  • By sharing information with each other, do we feel that spreading these tips and tricks will somehow threaten the security of our jobs?
  • Do we think that by helping others with one problem, they will return with more problems later? Maybe ask for money or a place to live?

Nowadays, listening to strangers on YouTube or reading through Blogs, are far more reliable data collection methods than asking an old friend. If you don’t look for information online, you will rarely find someone who will give a candid answer about how they personally made it.

However, like everything in life, there are exceptions. A stranger, or someone you have just met, is more likely to keenly try and help you, regardless of what it is with than someone close to you. But Why!?

Wealth Makes Us Stingy.

Several studies have investigated and showed how poor people are more generous than the wealthy. The reasons are attributed to a variety of reasons; however, the main ones relate to empathy and socialising/ collectivism. Rich people generally spend less time in large groups and those they do interact with, are just as wealthy. When it comes to empathy, poor people are willing to share the little they have because the struggle of being poor resonates with them & they feel an emotional connection to those who are poor.

I believe the same mentality can explain why the ‘richly employed’ are often so unwilling to help the ‘poorly unemployed’ by simply sharing information. I understand the reservations of rich people when it comes to being charitable. Sharing their material wealth and giving to the poor means they are losing something they have worked hard for. However, when it comes to employed individuals, giving away information about potential jobs or simply pointing someone in the right direction, takes nothing away from you. Time, yes, but very little of it.

Solutions? Talk To New People.

Not everyone who is employed and working comfortably is unwilling to help. There are a lot of people that are willing to genuinely help, for free! No strings attached because they still have an awareness of what it was like when they were in your position.

I’m sure there are several solutions for this predicament if you have found yourself in it, but meeting and talking to new people is the most obvious and best start. I’ve read a lot of articles about how you should network during your job hunt. Unfortunately, this is not always easy. Not everyone has access to networking events in their area because there might not be any.

Alternatives To Networking Events.

LinkedIn Networking – Using professional platforms like, Twitter, Facebook & LinkedIn to look for people that work in the sector or industry you are looking for work in, is a great start. Once you have found someone, send them a courtesy email, expressing your interest in their work/company. Ask them if they wouldn’t mind answering a few questions you have about their career. If they don’t respond, find someone else. There are millions of people on LinkedIn, all you need is one person to reply your message.

Phone Calls – Alternatively, take a more active approach and make phone calls. Some companies list their employees and their contact details on their websites. Find someone with a profile that matches your career aspirations and reach out. You have nothing to lose.

Visiting Businesses In Person – Do your research and learn the names of Managing directors of Heads of HR. Pay them a visit. Making yourself known, persisting and stroking their egos might just make the difference you need.

Connecting with School Alumni – Reach out to your University or High school development team.  They can connect you with other Alumni. Most schools have departments that keep a record of Alumni, where they are and what they are doing in life. Having something in common with someone you may have never met in school might just be all you need to create a rapport that will lead you to the next stage of your job hunt.

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